Two minds are never alike

One of the greatest failings we have as individuals is that we live too long listening to ourselves. The constant communication we have internally sets up a surety of purpose and a belief in our integrity which under any other circumstance we would question. On any subject, we hold opinion and regularly confirm that opinion with an internal dialog that is passing through our heads. We continually self justify virtually every utterance we make since it comes, so to speak "straight from the horses mouth". Our method of finalising our thoughts is complicated by previously held opinion and by our background and upbringing, but it's surprising how constrained we are even listening to other argument by our own preconceived ideas.
Is this a bad thing ?


The meaning of the word individual speaks for who we are, we are individuals each separate and independent. This independent mind can be scary since if one were to consider that in a perfect world we would all be alone with our own unique views, untainted by herd think but also pretty lonely.

Realising one is alone, totally alone is both frightening and pretty mind blowing. Our lives are usually spent trying to win favour, trying to find common ground to break the impasse of being seen as a maverick, or self centred, of being seen as odd!! It's perfectly natural to try to find allegiances with others since some of our ideas are so fundamental to our thinking that we would feel an oddball if we were in a majority of one. The social aspect of our human make up needs the society we keep to think generally along the same lines and it is this search for a sense of common ground and, in a way, a loyalty to a set of ideals which makes us fragile. We can be disappointed where we would least think to find it. We create a presumption that we are all singing from the same hymn book and that knowing the words is the same as understanding the meaning.
Perhaps if we were to practice mental celibacy, perhaps always define our conversation with the understanding that not even 50% of what we say is understood in the way you would wish.
Would this lead to more reticence, more a willingness to withhold on the basis that what you say will inevitably be misconstrued, not with any malice but simply because two minds are never alike !!!!