Values

As General Samsonov rode around his troops on the hillside above Orlau he was saying his goodbyes and thanking the men for their effort. Instead of planning the break out, he had succumbed to nostalgia and recollection rather than action and command.
In Jane Austen's books the father is surrounded by adoring daughters who lisp adoration for his guidance and strength in their daily affairs. His was the centre of their world until they marry when another man would assume the part.
Partly because they were within a tight knit world where reliance was essential this tribe did what all tribes do they acknowledged the functions each was expected to carry out and performed their part in what after all was only a play on the formality of life when all are supposed to know their part.
Today's theatre is a far cry from the tradition of the Russian aristocracy and the 'noblesse oblige' of the army or the genteel dance which pretended to be life for the better off in England. Today the call is to independence and a fixation, almost an obsession to cut ties with everything in the past and concentrate only on the future.
The problem is, as we have discussed in the past "the future has no surety", it has little substance other than hope. If we throw away our past, as superfluous to our needs we enter troubled waters since the essence of 'who we are' lays in our past. Like cholesterol in the bloodstream represents too much of a poor diet, a good up bringing is a thing to value and fall back upon when things don't always pan out as one would wish. It's then that family and respect for what families have gone through to bring you to where you are today is important. It's also important to recognise that whilst roles change and power shifts the substance of your position today, any day, holds a debt of gratitude, especially towards the 'mother' for what went on yesterday. 
I must add that I am blessed with children who are full of love and concern, although idiomatic they are more likely to voice their views with vehemence rather than a simper but we put that down to spirit rather than hostility.
Of course there is a fair amount of frustration wrapped up in it all.  Frustration as they see their once strong, authorities parents reduced to needy old folk but the affection and the respect are never far away.