We mess up.

Is being Gay a more natural position to take if the 'contest' between the sexes is becoming so focused and potentially disruptive, destroying the inherent potential for good within the individual.
Taking out the issue of procreation and the sexual urges typical between men and women (but no less apparent between people of the same sex it appears) can it be argued that ones own sex male or female, has the attraction of 'sharing' through gender common ground.
The commonality, the shared agenda of women and men seems to be based within their gender and although there is plenty of cross-over one often is reminded of the term "a fish out of water" when one sees the girlfriend attending a rugby match on a cold day, or the man lining up with his partner at a day in the shops. These differences blur into everything we share with our partners and to a greater or lesser degree we hide our frustration at having to attend, or subjugate our wish to be somewhere else.
All this would be swept aside if we were Gay. The hormones and the gender statistics would be a thing of the past as we grew accustomed to being with like minded people.
Of course it's not so simple s The Gay couple seem to suffer the same sorts of interpersonal conflicts that Straight couples do.
The jealousies and misunderstandings deliver the same anguish and seem to override the assumed conviviality of sharing so much from an emotional environment, which has much more in common than being of the opposite sex.
The reason there is still tension between people, irrespective of their sex is that even though the common interests and beliefs predominate we elevate the things which still concern us and begin to focus, to the exclusion of much else, what we think we have discovered.
Like the wart on the face, you cannot take your eye off it, it subsumes every effort to concentrate on the person as a whole and we mess up !!