The advantages of celibacy

Subject: The advantage of celibacy

One advantage of celibacy is, you always wake up each morning with the same person.

Lives are made and unmade the moment we deviate from being that self centred individual of childhood and becoming embroiled in the tender trap, where things become at best a gamble. With the the best will in the world, choosing a partner has to be the most difficult and frustrating process you are expected to undertake. Often it was never your intention to look long term, friendship or companionship was enough, someone to go on walks with or have a pint in the Dog & Duck.

Bachelorhood was an uncomplicated business since it lacked the emotional peril of being misconstrued, of not sharing, not reaching out or failing to put enough effort in when trying to please.  The crucial error of being satisfied with ones own view point was compounded by the complication of trying to seek a compromise when the world was so obviously seen through a totally different prism.  

In my day, boys and girls were expected to have different expectations and follow different goals. The girls were more family orientated, whilst the boys more difficult to pin down, more ego-centric. Growing up on different paths, was it any wonder that when the paths converged from a single to a duel carriageway, the questions whether  to go fast or slow , take the top road and or through the valley became a live topic. The unevenness of pressure applied in reaching decisions depended on strength and a loud voice and only rarely on common sense. The overall package became a question of long negotiation and giving way to avoid a battle and at each acquiescence, the power shifted.

Of course many would say it's not a battle, it's a compromise but as always the danger of compromise is no one is ever truly satisfied.