Tuesday, 31 January 2017

Waiting their decision


Subject: Waiting their decision.


So now it's high heels !!
Gender discrimination has raised its head again with apoplectic women lining up to complain about the company who insisted that a woman wore high heels to work.
The aspect of dress in the office has, as with everything become an issue of personal rights which from a very early age seem to define us. Of course we all have rights (?) but to judge your right to have rights outside the home is littered with exceptions. 
I can be prosecuted if I decide to exercise what I assume my rights if and when I break the law. If as a child, I go to a school which has a school uniform not dressed in that uniform. Men in an office environment are often expected to wear a suit and tie. 
The news reader interviewing the young woman, who has taken this matter of what she claims is discrimination, (through her female MP) to Parliament, was dressed immaculately, as news readers always are, as required by the television channel.  She knowing she was to be on show in front of the cameras had spruced herself up and was dressed to kill, high heels and all.
When, for what ever reason her company had told her, on her first day with them, she must, as part of the dress code wear high heels she felt her gender slighted. 
Now whether high heels are appropriate or not it seems to me that if on joining a company on your first day you might be expected to comply. This is your desk, these are your duties, this is when you start and finish and these are the standards of dress we wish you to conform to, with the unspoken caveat and if you don't like any of these issues then please don't apply for a job with us. Simple as that !!
But of course it's not simple anymore and we of the older generation are adrift in this "make it up to suit yourself world" we live in now.
Listening this morning to academics propounding the theory that under no circumstances must one shout at a child, no matter how bad the behaviour, no matter how you perceive the danger. So slapping is out, shouting is out and apparently singing to them is in. All our actions towards the young and we are not talking about toddlers, has to understand the motivation of the tantrum, the root of the trauma since it is never the child's fault. It can never be the child's fault, they are too precious to hold grudges or wish you harm, they carry a clean slate and it's up to you, the teacher or the parent to suss out the causes of why they are screaming. The simple old fashioned expedient,  because you had said enough is not enough.  It's a question of rights and your rights come way down the chain. 
The intellectualising and psychoanalysing has drawn us into a very dark place where every mood-swing, every attention seeking ploy, is run through the prism of some sort of underlaying fault line and we had better get to know our child's true emotional landscape so we can mollify their concerns and modify our need to bring order into our lives. 
As a sentient being I am to subordinate my consciousness to the consciousness of others, in fact the conscientiousness of all others is more important than my own and my rights lie not in my hands but are the business of everyone else and it's for me to wait 'their' decision.

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