A conundrum

Its a strange dichotomy to listen to the opposing views of "women". One group who see wearing the Buka as, ' men 'controlling' the female.  Another group of "women" want to cover themselves up so they feel empowered by hiding their femininity from other men in some sort of sanctifying process.
The facts seen from outside the tent, are simple. It is known that men who believe they have the power of a patriarch, who see the women in their life as something they own and have the power to dictate to would find the opportunity to hide their wife behind a dress code designed to exclude the sight of the women from any other male, made to order. Yet there are women who yearn for this sanctity such that the interplay between men and women is wholly for them to dictate. The self identification that a person carries around with them is sharpened if they are not under scrutiny, its as if they are segregated and therefore comfortable in dictating their own options. If you add to this, a religious concept, of purity and self sacrifice it builds a powerful incentive to be special within their own sisterhood.
We all need to feel special, if this can be achieved by the simple expedient of a dress code, recognised and valued amongst the people who matter to us, it becomes a clear dividing line between the unhealthy activity and overt exposure we see all around in a society which in so many ways is engrossed in its self destruction in aspects of moral integrity. 

The barbaric FGM (female genital mutilation) is also a matter of conflict in Africa where the older women in the tribe support the practice, whilst the younger women are fervently opposed. The case of FGM provides nothing more than a clash of tribal custom which is held to be important in maintaining some sort of chastity amongst the girls. 
Not to enjoy sex would pre-suppose that you might limit yourself but of course, for it to work one would have to find a way of making it un-enjoyable for the man. True to form, no male would subject himself to any sort of such constraint and so we have a conundrum.